Friendship

This year it appears that I have lost the friendship of 2 people I considered very close friends.

One of them, a male friend, deliberately stitched me up financially to prove a point and make a laughing stock of me. Thanks very much - you know who you are! That person also didn't like my child very much so it's perhaps just as well. It wasn't a romantic relationship but it was a good friendship until he let me down.

The other friend is a female who has decided to pull away from her friends after getting engaged. Her fiance's a weird kind of chap and is making her adapt an "us together against the world" viewpoint. That's ok and I guess I have to cut ties as her loyalties are with him and not with her friends but if their relationship doesn't work out, and I am not sure that it will, she will be quite friendless.

Funnily enough someone I was friendly with years ago recently got in touch with me during the course of work. She had been a really good friend and we'd even been on holiday together, attended self-defence classes together and worked together. Then someone told me that my friend's current boyfriend was 2-timing her and I made the mistake of telling her. That was the end of the friendship as far as she was concerned as I didn't tell her who had told me. Are you following this? A few years later I heard that her father had died so I wrote her a condolence letter and followed it up with a phonecall. She was quite chatty and said she'd keep in touch but never did. A few years later I read that she'd got married. I thought no more of it until I realised I'd have to speak to her in the course of my job. I told my colleague the situation and he dealt with her but it finally reached a point where I had to deal with her and she was very apologetic for what had happened in the past. Although I accepted her apology with a "that's all in the past, forget about it" manner, I was actually quite cross and certainly wouldn't want to see her socially again.

So, friendship eh! Is it worth it? Why do we bother? Suckers, aren't we?!